With over 95 million Millenials in the U.S. it is understandable how anyone over 45 can struggle with feelings of irrelevance. Due to shear volume they are changing the landscape. Marketers are listening and responding to their demands and employers welcome their cheaper labor costs.
But don’t count yourself out just yet. You are as young or as old as you tell yourself that you are. Self dialogue determines your trajectory not your age.
Ernestine Shepherd began weight training at the age of 56. Today she is over 80 with the body of a 20 something. Her secret, self conversation.
Vera Wang, began her first business at the age of 40. Her secret, self conversation.
Samuel L. Jackson landed his first award-winning role at 43. His secret, self conversation.
Henry Ford was 45 when he invented the Model T Ford. His secret, self conversation.
Colonel Sanders founded Kentucky Fried Chicken at the age of 62. His secret, self conversation.
Each of the people identified above dismissed their fears and inhibitions because they mastered the art of self conversation.
What is the content of your self conversation? Is it littered with limitations and obstacles? Or is it filled with encouragement and re-assurance? Remember the trajectory of your life and business is determined by the content of your self conversation.
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Do You Have a Business or a Hobby?
Online business owners – and even coaches – can easily “open their doors for business” without a firm business plan in place. Some may test the waters to see if they attract any clients and some start out doing this online work as a side gig while working their full-time job. So, if this is how you opened your business, do you have a business or a hobby?
A hobby traditionally is an activity that brings you joy, that you do in your spare time. A business, on the other hand, provides a service or products to clients, has regular business hours, and strives to make a profit. Here are some questions to ask yourself to determine if you are working a business or a hobby:
Do you have firm business hours or are you working sporadic hours as your family or full-time job allows?
Do you make the most of your business hours or work time, working as efficiently as possible, or do you get distracted with social media or other behind-the-scenes tasks?
Do you have a business plan, even for one year, which includes expected profits?
Do you make your own opportunities, or do you wait for them to come to you?
Do you withdraw every penny from your account after clients pay or do you give yourself a pay structure and reinvest some of your profits into software, training, or other business expenses?
You should have an idea now about if your business is truly a business.
We live in an online world more often than not. We have so much technology now that’s designed to streamline our lives and make it easier to connect with the people that we care about.
Technology makes it easier to do business and make good things happen for our careers. But strangely, the technology that was supposed to be the key to our happiness, comfort and success has the potential to backfire.
Instead of helping, in many cases, the use of technology has led people to deeper levels of stress, feelings of discontentment and lives so busy that they’re hardly living at all.
Studies performed on the link between stress and time spend on the Internet or social media sites can be misleading when they claim that spending time online can lower stress.
The factors involved in the studies don’t take into consideration the offline lifestyles of those involved in the studies. Technology itself is neither good nor bad. It’s how it’s used that can make it something that can negatively impact your life.
The key is to use technology with mindfulness. By incorporating what is good and positive about being online and the various uses of technology to connect with other people in a meaningful way.
For example, if you have family members that live a good distance away from you, connecting with them instantly through a text message, online chat, or video communication makes you feel happier. Technology enables you to share updates about your life or send relatives photos of yourself, your family and your pets. When you use social media with mindfulness, it empowers you to better manage and reduce stress. When used to reduce workload, save time and to connect globally technology leads to feelings of contentment with a more positive outlook.
Beware as the dark side of being online is that there’s a great deal of negativity floating around in cyberspace.There are numerous stories about people being hateful to each other, calling names, bullying, threatening or harassing. There are people who keep drama heightened through online fighting.
Even if you’re just an online bystander to someone else’s drama, if you experience that, your mind will register the same type of anxious response as if you had been involved and your feelings will follow the lead of your thoughts.
When you see how wonderful someone else’s life appears to be online, it can lead you to become discontent and irritable. It can make you focus on the negative instead of looking at the positive.
Online interaction can also make you feed yourself negative self talk – especially when you see others who are better looking, richer, have nicer homes, easier looking lives and appear to be having more fun.
But, when you practice mindfulness in associating with your technology use, you’ll discover that your happiness level increases.
Keys to Technology Mindfulness:
- Set limits on when you’ll be online and how much time you’ll spend online.
- Refuse to keep your cellphone with you 24/7.
- When you are on social media or online, find ways to use it to do something positive such as encourage someone else.
- Let go of the things online that are irrelevant to your life or that make your negativity or stress level rise.
- Have a defined purpose and a time limit to be online and stick to it.
Happiness seems to be a fleeting thing to some people; others seem to have a good grasp on it and seem to be able to hang on for dear life! Happiness means different things to different people, but there are similarities that have led scientists to believe that there is much people can do to assist themselves in their personal pursuit of happiness. Happy people enjoy a true sense of purpose in their life. What is your passion and are you living it? For many people, faith in God or a higher power brings them happiness, hope for the future, grounding and a sense of purpose. Happy people generally are giving people; giving brings the giver joy, when the giving is heartfelt as opposed to giving for the sake of giving or an ulterior motive. Happy people are thankful for their lives as well as the people and relationships in their life. Happy people understand the importance of cultivating healthy relationships. Happy people have the courage to walk away from toxic people and situations. Optimism doesn’t come naturally to some people, but the happiest people are optimists, always looking on the lighter and brighter side of life.
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